Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Guide to help when relatives or friends participate in cult


My friend, partner, family recently the meantime become strange, I guess, he may have participated in a cult-like organization.

How can I help him?

To remain calm, do not panic, but to act early, because just attended a member of such organizations criticized the degree of acceptance, usually than depth Organization later was high.
Collect relevant information as possible, the judge behind this in the end is which organization. This organization is called what? Who is the leadership? They will read the books? Do not avoid talking with them or ask a question.
Go to the public or other similar advisory body to seek help, to back cult, they will help you get a neutral and critical information.
You must be by virtue of the relatives and friends of performance information collected from the line judge.
Agreed with your family and friends to a "formal conversation" time, and prior consensus: everyone let the other speak their minds, and listen carefully to. You must find a non-interference with the environment and rational dialogue.
Let your family and friends to express their views. Let him describe him to find a good place in this group, and perhaps you will discover, this may be part been lacking in his life. You can offer assistance in this area or alternatives?
Tell your friends and relatives of some of his recent change in the eyes of outsiders look how unusual. You before to collect information on the organization to family and friends to see. Please tell him, if you want to construct a complete idea alone unilateral (Organization) side of the argument is absolutely not enough.
You can tell family and friends why you feel worried, and you see what kind of risk. But let your friends and family know, you do not know why they decided to do so, but you have to accept their decision.
Give him hope, to let him know, you always are willing to help him if he wanted to withdraw. But do not put on a high-profile exhibit: "See, I would have told you so" attitude. Care, it is very difficult to admit their mistakes. Do not assessment plan off the lives of others.
Do this topic has been repeated in his ear, nagging, or which may only strengthens the defensive mentality of your friends and relatives. If he is just some of the groups also have doubts, you may be able to prove it.
Strengthen your feeling with his partner. Even the common interests of the two sides has disappeared, or continuing to keep in touch with your family and friends. External social groups outside. To know if the members of these organizations in normal society has no friends, he, much less likely to exit the organization, because the exit will be plunged into the solitude of interpersonal.
In these groups, your family and friends will get a new identity, but the old identity more or less still exist. You must make sure that his old identity will not completely disappear, as his friends and family, you know him, you have plenty of opportunities to maintain his identity. When he want to quit the organization in the future, the old identity is very important.
Do not feel depressed, you can not expect to soon succeed. Do not let that put into all of your life which this problem. You must also understand that, for many people, to participate in such organizations are often just a stage of life.