Guide to help when relatives or friends participate in cult

My friend, partner, family recently the meantime become strange, I guess, he may have participated in a cult-like organization.

How can I help him?

To remain calm, do not panic, but to act early, because just attended a member of such organizations criticized the degree of acceptance, usually than depth Organization later was high.
Collect relevant information as possible, the judge behind this in the end is which organization. This organization is called what? Who is the leadership? They will read the books? Do not avoid talking with them or ask a question.
Go to the public or other similar advisory body to seek help, to back cult, they will help you get a neutral and critical information.
You must be by virtue of the relatives and friends of performance information collected from the line judge.
Agreed with your family and friends to a "formal conversation" time, and prior consensus: everyone let the other speak their minds, and listen carefully to. You must find a non-interference with the environment and rational dialogue.
Let your family and friends to express their views. Let him describe him to find a good place in this group, and perhaps you will discover, this may be part been lacking in his life. You can offer assistance in this area or alternatives?
Tell your friends and relatives of some of his recent change in the eyes of outsiders look how unusual. You before to collect information on the organization to family and friends to see. Please tell him, if you want to construct a complete idea alone unilateral (Organization) side of the argument is absolutely not enough.
You can tell family and friends why you feel worried, and you see what kind of risk. But let your friends and family know, you do not know why they decided to do so, but you have to accept their decision.
Give him hope, to let him know, you always are willing to help him if he wanted to withdraw. But do not put on a high-profile exhibit: "See, I would have told you so" attitude. Care, it is very difficult to admit their mistakes. Do not assessment plan off the lives of others.
Do this topic has been repeated in his ear, nagging, or which may only strengthens the defensive mentality of your friends and relatives. If he is just some of the groups also have doubts, you may be able to prove it.
Strengthen your feeling with his partner. Even the common interests of the two sides has disappeared, or continuing to keep in touch with your family and friends. External social groups outside. To know if the members of these organizations in normal society has no friends, he, much less likely to exit the organization, because the exit will be plunged into the solitude of interpersonal.
In these groups, your family and friends will get a new identity, but the old identity more or less still exist. You must make sure that his old identity will not completely disappear, as his friends and family, you know him, you have plenty of opportunities to maintain his identity. When he want to quit the organization in the future, the old identity is very important.
Do not feel depressed, you can not expect to soon succeed. Do not let that put into all of your life which this problem. You must also understand that, for many people, to participate in such organizations are often just a stage of life.

Cult checklist

You recently took part in a new group or new courses. People inside you are abnormal, you find that your values ​​within a few days, suddenly not the same. This is a really wonderful organization! Many cult has a trait that let you participate in, and immediately there is a feeling of happiness. 17 items in the following checklist, if you want to participate in the organization or group has the following characteristics, it is best to have a clearer understanding of the organization (established charging methods, if you had a bad track record, etc.) After further added.



In this group, you seem to be able to find in the past have been looking for something, they are very clear, what you find.



When you contact this organization, you have everything in the world will have a new view.



3. Worldview of the organization is very easy to understand, at a glance, and can explain all the problems.



4 it is hard to grasp the whole picture of the organization, in fact, they do not allow you ponder or inspection. The new acquaintances organization will tell you: "It's hard to explain in words, need to experience, not to take a look at the past?"



This organization have a "master", "master" and "mentor", "teacher", "teacher", "╳ division, only he can know the truth of the universe or life.



The doctrine of this organization is the only true and eternal wisdom. Social science, rational thinking, will be treated as a negative, demons, or not enough to inspire.



7. Outside the organization questioned, but as positive proof of the organization.



The world is about to encounter a major disaster, this is the only organization to know how to save the planet.



. Participate in the organization's talent elite, others are sick scum, unless they are willing to participate in our redeemed.



10 organizations will be asked to participate immediately.



11 organization members through clothing, diet, its own language, strictly interpersonal relationship, members isolated from society.



12. Organizations will be asked to sever ties with the past life, because it will hinder your growth.



13. Strictly regulate your sex life for you to choose a spouse, for example, from "above", the collective sexual behavior or complete abstinence. (Annotation: Buddhism, Catholicism is the "monk" after abstinence believers are no strong provisions.)



14. Organizations continue to give you a lot of work and takes up all your time. You have to sell books, sell publications, recruit new members, attend courses, Meditation ...



15. Almost lost alone time, someone in the organization will always haunt you all day. (Annotation: Buddy System)



16 when you begin to wonder why the organization had promised to "success" did not happen, the organization will tell you that you invest enough, or lack of belief, it is your responsibility. (Annotation: multi-level marketing also has this trait!)



17 organization requires you to strictly follow the doctrines and regulations, this is the only chance to save.

(In line with the higher the level, the more we should be careful)