My friend, partner, family members during this period has recently become strange, I guess, he may take part in a similar cult organization.
How can I help him?
To remain calm, do not panic, but I want to act early, just because members of such organizations take part in criticism for the degree of acceptance, usually later than the high-depth organization.
The collection of relevant information as possible to determine which are which in the end behind the organization. This organization called? Leaders Who are we? What they will read books? Do not talk with them to avoid or ask questions.
Go public or other similar advisory body to seek help, as long as the behind with the cult, and they will help you get a neutral and critical information.
You must by virtue of a performance for friends and relatives with information gathered from the line judge.
With your friends and relatives agreed a "formal conversation" time, and obtain consensus: everyone is free to the other party, and listened carefully. You must find a not to be and can interfere with rational dialogue environment.
Let your friends and relatives to express their views. Let him described him in this group to find what best place, perhaps you will notice that this could be his life has always been lacking in part. You can provide assistance in this area, or an alternative to it?
Tell your friends and relatives of some of his recent change in the eyes of outsiders seem more unusual. Before your collection about the organization's information to relatives and friends watch. Please tell him, if we construct a complete mind, only unilateral (organizational) side is absolutely not enough.
You can tell why you feel worried about their relatives and friends, but you see what kind of risk. But friends and relatives to let you know that although you do not know why they decided to do so, but you have to accept their decision.
Give him hope, and let him know if he want to quit, you are willing to help him at any time. But do not therefore put a high profile on the show: "Look, I have long said that they will do with you" attitude. Please Care, it is necessary to admit his mistakes are very difficult. Do not judge other people's life planning.
Do not have this topic in his ears repeated nagging, otherwise this may only strengthen the defensive mentality of your friends and relatives. If just some of his groups was also place in doubt, you may be able to prove this point.
Strengthen your partnership with his feeling. Even if the two sides share common interests has disappeared, or with your relatives and friends continued to keep in touch. Allows you to become him to the outside world in groups outside the community. To know that if members of these bodies in the normal society has no friends, he is even more organized is not easy to quit, quit because of the occasion will be a lonely person.
In these groups, your friends and relatives will be given a new identity, but more or less the old identity still exists. You must ensure that his old identity will not completely disappear, as his friends and family, you know best about him, you have a lot of opportunity to maintain his identity. When he quit the Organization of the future when the old identity is very important.
Do not feel frustrated, do not expect will soon be successful. Not to all of your life into this issue which. You must also understand that for many people often take part in such an organization is only one phase of life only.
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